Why does my mom keep asking for her mother?
This is one of the most painful moments in dementia care — and one of the most misunderstood. Asking for a mother is almost never a question about facts. It is a request for safety.
Read the guideMy husband refuses to shower — what do I do?
Bathing refusal is rarely stubbornness. It is usually fear, cold, embarrassment, or a loss of control over the most private part of daily life.
Read the guideWhy does dementia get worse in the evening?
If your hardest hours are between four and eight in the evening, you are not imagining it. Sundowning is real, common, and largely preventable with a rhythm rather than a reaction.
Read the guideMy mom won't eat — how do I get her to eat?
Feeding someone is one of the deepest expressions of love, which is why refusal at the table hurts so much. Most mealtime resistance has a cause you can change.
Read the guideMy dad keeps saying he wants to go home — but he is home
“Home” in dementia is rarely an address. It is a feeling — of being known, useful, and unafraid.
Read the guideI am exhausted and losing my patience as a dementia caregiver
In the Dignity-First™ Method, protecting the caregiver is a step, not an afterthought. Care that depletes you cannot last — and your nervous system sets the tone of the whole household.
Read the guideAsk Bella™ provides caregiver education and coaching, not medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. In an emergency, call your local emergency number.